Comments on: I Say I’m Fine

By: IdeaSmith

IdeaSmith — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 17:18:52 +0000

@rambler: You make a good point. I like the idea of trust getting confused with dependence. It bears thinking about.

By: rambler

rambler — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 18:35:42 +0000

you know what you don't really need to be in a relationship to trust someone, may be I am wrong. Just look at the normal trust levels, when someone comes to you and says, he hasn't had food for days would you believe and give him money?, if no, would your grandfather/grandmother has done the same thing?. I think somewhere there is a fear thats seeping into our heads making us less trusting. The same can be extended to relationships as well. I guess the idea of trusting is somewhere getting blurred into being dependent on the partner, which might be a contributor to reduced trusts.
It kind of feels awkward when I say these things because I have no experience of a relationship, and I feel like such a hypocrite to state my theorioes

By: anand

anand — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 17:22:56 +0000

Well, i guess, that raises a lot of questions..
1. Why do people share problems??
a)because they expect a solution
b)because they like the attention it brings
c)because sharing the problem, reduces the pain(apparently)
d)All of the above
e) None of the above (Specify in text box, what it is)
f) It is impossible to know…
(P.S: I hope i covered all the usual answers, do let me know if you can think of any more.:))
Personally i would just say f) and be happy with it….

On a personal note:
But i am one of the ‘lots of people’(atleast when i am upset about something).. and expect the equation to work.
But then there are other times, when i guess other’s problems, while they are beating around the bush and offer the solution,sometimes bewildering them and sometimes offending them…. .

By: tristan

tristan — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 11:10:50 +0000

this is an incredibly forward-thinking blogpost. it's well-written, well articulated, and reads like a mirror.

good job, tristan